Chapter 11 Journal AssignmentThere are two parts to this assignment. 1) Answer each of the following questions of the quiz first. Then review the analysis of your answers to each of the questions.

Chapter 11 Journal Assignment

There are two parts to this assignment. 1)  Answer each of the following questions of the quiz first.  Then review the analysis of your answers to each of the questions.  2) For this assignment, do you agree or disagree with the analysis?  Be sure to have a response for each of the questions.   Also, be sure to answer each question completely and work to incorporate material from the text, course exercises and discussions. Answers must integrate course terminology and personal experience.

Part One

  1. Take the quiz: Communication Assessment ( (Links to an external site.)Links to an external site.)

  2. Analysis: The answer “b” to all questions indicates more effective communication.  The more b’s you have, the better you’re doing.  The a’s indicate an opportunity to improve.  The following explains why “b” is the better answer for each question:
  1. Intimacy and conflict go hand in hand. If you want real intimacy with your mate, then there will be real conflict. People just don’t agree on everything at all times. How you handle the resulting disagreements is more important than whether or not you have them. The most successful couples work through their disagreements and conflicts together and develop a stronger relationship as a result of that teamwork.
  2. No one is a mind reader and it is really impossible for your partner to know what you are thinking and feeling no matter how long you have known each other. It is important that you agree to say what is important and to talk until you both agree that youunderstand.
  3. Dropping hints waste your time and your partner’s time and it usually leads to misunderstanding and disappointment. Get right to the point so your partner won’t have to guess what your concerns are in the relationship. State how you feel by using “I” statements instead of “you” statements.
  4. Concentrating on what you like about your mate and your relationship will lead to a more positive relationship. If you concentrate on the things you don’t like, it’s easy to overlook the good things. Negativity breeds negativity which then makes communication and problem solving more difficult. Use positive elements of the relationship as a foundation upon which to learn and grow. We get more of what we concentrate on!
  5. Communication requires two people. Issues will remain unsettled unless you and your partner agree to communicate. We recommend that you agree to communicate with the guidelines of understanding, kindness, honesty and respect as ground rules. These guidelines will serve to reduce tension and remind you both that you are on the same team. As a couple agree to your own discussion rules which can include such things as time-outs for cooling off or thinking.
  6. Most of us don’t pick up on hints so don’t expect your partner to guess what you do or don’t want. Make clear and direct statements. Follow the guidelines of understanding, kindness, honesty and respect. These guidelines make it easier to state your desires in a positive way and are more likely to be understood and well received.
  7. Successful communication requires good listening. No one wants to be interrupted while they are speaking. We all want our feelings and thoughts to be heard, valued and understood. Listen for understanding. Rephrase what you have heard your partner say and then ask if this is correct. Save your side of the discussion until you have validated your partner’s feelings. Validating your partner’s feelings and thoughts is the key to success.
  8. Blame fuels the fire of disagreement. Most of the time we believe that our position is acceptable and tend to blame the other person for any misunderstanding rather than to see our own flaws in communicating. Analyze your part in fueling a problem and avoid blaming others. Be responsible for your role in the relationship.
  9. We tend to learn by example. If your parents were poor communicators more than likely you have learned and now act out some ineffective ways of communicating. These habits may seem quite comfortable to you even if they are not working. It is up to you to learn new positive ways to communicate. Be persistent and practice until they become habit.

Part Two:

  1. Do you agree/disagree with your results?  
  2. Please go through all 9 questions and explain your logic and reasoning for your decision.

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